Episode 5: Gossip Destroys Relationships
In this episode, Alli breaks down what gossip does to relationships.
She talks about how it feels in our bodies, gives us practical tips on how to stop gossipping less and how to shut down gossip when we see it happening. She opens up about her personal experiences with gossip and shares opinions of others whom she respects like Gabrielle Union and Aubrey Marcus.
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1:00 Gossip actually destroys the fabric of friendship, the fabric of relationships
2:49 If this person is gossiping to us, they totally have the capacity to turn around and gossip about us
4:40 20 seconds of bravery...being bold...saying I’d rather not talk about X or Y and change the subject
6:30 Gossip represents the dark side of tribalism. By reinforcing that others outside of your current circle are ‘less than’ or ‘other’ you enforce the idea that the present party is ‘same’ or ‘chosen’. It’s a spell the ego can cast which will have a temporary effect, but ultimately at the cost of the whole social ecosystem. Because if everyone is constantly talking shit about everyone else inevitably mistrust and isolation are the foregone conclusion. - Aubrey Marcus
"We live in a town that rewards pretending. I used to revel in gossip and rumors. I lived for the negativity inflicted upon my sister actresses or anyone who I felt, whose shine diminished my own. I took joy in people's pain and I tap-danced on their misery."
“I had never heard anyone be that honest in public or private about the competition and fierce drive to be seen and succeed in Hollywood.” - Oprah
9:00 She was afraid of anyone else getting attention, because there is only so much attention to go around.
10:20 Gabrielle union ripping apart another woman...in front of her life coach...you showed exactly how much power this woman has over you
She put other people’s pain on her happy list.
11:40 Get really clear about what makes you happy. Gossip will naturally fade away.
12:27 Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. -Eleanor Roosevelt
13:30 Be mindful of your words. Words have power.
14:38 Be weary of gossip described as concern.
16:14 Whose game are you playing?
17:30 Internet trolls
22:15 Allow yourself space to heal fully and feel the effects of gossip.