Who I Created the Hookup Series For…
I created this for the girl who really wants a relationship.
I created this for the girl who keeps settling for a hookup even though she wants a lasting, fulfilling relationship.
I created this for the girl who is tired of playing games.
I created this for the girl who is DONE with the douches.
I created this for me...like 5 years ago…
After the trauma, I ran into the arms of guys who gave me attention, made me feel pretty, but never wanted more than a hookup. I wrote this as things I wish I knew then.
I did not create this for the girl who is happy just hooking up.
I did not create this for the girl who doesn’t want a relationship.
I did not create this for the girl who already has a happy, healthy relationship.
No offense or judgement to the girls above, you are just not who I created this for.
Here is a video, which shares what I wrote below in a bit more detail. So if you're into video do the vid, if not, there's words below 😉
In the last video and post we discussed creating the space in your life to manifest your ideal relationship.
Today we are going to sit deep in that space and ask ourselves WHY we are hooking up. In my coaching of women and the messages I’ve received, I’ve noticed there are mostly 3 different reasons people are hooking up.
We hookups as a distraction.We use them to busy our lives to distract ourselves from quietude, from facing our fears or our pasts, or facing our current reality. We hookup because it distracts us from our loneliness. It feels temporarily better to hang out with someone (even if he disrespects us) than sit at home alone. We may not be focused or fulfilled in our lives, so we numb our attention with a surface level connection.
We hookup because it's easy. If we’ve been hurt emotionally before, we hookup because it’s easier than delving emotionally deep. We don’t want to do the work to heal from the past, so we just keep hooking up, hoping something will at some point change.
We hookups because there’s too many choices. Why choose one when you can choose them all? We are scared of making the wrong decision, so we just cease to make a decision at all. It is more convenient to have options and it is easier to avoid the fear of choosing the wrong one.
So, now that you’ve heard my three reasons why I think we are hooking up, Which one do you most identify with? Maybe one? Or maybe a combination of all 3? Take some time getting quiet with yourself and journal or just really think about your reasons.
Identifying your reason for hooking up allows you to understand why you may run back to them.
If you want to hear more on this topic, be sure to visit the first post on creating space in your life for your ideal relationship.
And if you want even more juicy information, make sure you download my free e-book on healing from hookups, which goes into even more JUICY personal details.